The only thing that saved us from the consequences of that night was the knowledge and understanding that God was in control and had commanded us to remain married. We had taken the traditional vows, “for better or worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part”, and we had faced a lot of trials over the years, but nothing like this had ever shaken us so badly. Emotionally, financially, we were decimated, devastated and destroyed… almost. This was real and scary and I was not sure if we were going to weather this storm. But God knew, and I held on with all my heart and soul to my Creator, Savior and all the promises His word contains for believers.
On the advice of our pastor, we began a series of Bible studies recommended for married couples that had grown apart. We found that we really didn’t want our marriage to end. But we had to learn how to treat one another again, with love and respect. We had to learn how to forgive the unforgivable. And we had to learn that putting God first in our individual hearts was the only path that was going to keep us from destroying what God had created between us. I invited God to humble me and use me to accomplish God’s will in my marriage, to save our relationship as husband and wife. I didn’t know if my husband could ever love me again, only God could change his heart, but I could allow myself to be used by God. And that was my decision, to be obedient to the One whom I trusted above all others.